When I was a child, I would dream about my life now. I prayed so hard to God, to the moon, and my dead grandpa for love and to become a mom. I wanted a baby Simba or a Barbie in my arms at all times. I wanted to comb it’s hair, dress it up, and push the belly button to hear a Spice Girls single. Since then, every complaint that came out of a mother’s mouth translated to ungrateful… I WANTED WHAT THEY HAD! I wanted to lose sleep, I wanted to change poop-y diapers, I wanted to stress about finances if it meant I had a baby to love. Still, I am careful to not complain about any part of motherhood, because I am living my biggest dream. This is my purpose; maybe that’s not enough for others, but this is mine.
There’s no “but…. *insert complaint*.” I will still not complain about being a mom. Being a mom is hard work; that’s not a complaint, that’s fact. The work you put into it is what you’ll get out. What you water, grows. If you pour into your marriage, it grows. If you pour into a relationship with God, through grace, it grows. If you pour into your business, guess what… it grows! Growth doesn’t happen over night, even if you dump your whole pitcher of water in – you might drown it. Just building habits of taking care of what you’re called to will result in growth.
Where I’ve failed as a mom, is barely pouring into myself… and when I do, I feel guilty. I have been pouring into (managing) my businesses, marriage, child, occasionally pets, and friends – that when I stopped to look into the mirror, I couldn’t recognize the potato looking back at me. I am not a superficial person at all, but I should at least be bathed and groomed occasionally, right? Here are the simple, affordable, and quick ways I’ve poured into myself:
Learn something – read a book, read a blog, visit my favorite University AKA: YouTube. Learn something that will make you a better you. For me, it’s been listening to church services while nursing or playing with Anakin. I’ve also made a goal to read 18 books this year (1 book a month until June, then 2 books a month). I’m one book down, and have already read more books then I did last year! Learning more about Anakin also makes me feel more confident – checking in with developmental leaps helps me understand him better, and makes me less anxious about change.
Start something for YOU – for me, it’s been this blog. This blog is my space to choose my words wisely. Some blogs maybe for venting, some maybe to encourage. Maybe you prefer privacy – a journal would be great!
Change your look – y’all, postpartum hair-loss is real. Some things you can not dodge, no matter how many prenatal vitamins you take. I went to my hair stylist for just a haircut to reshape my mane. Yay, no mom bun on the weekends!
Buy new clothes for YOU – I’ve shared my nursing friendly outfits for just about every occasion, but Mama, get something for you. You don’t even need to leave the house. I now understand why my sister doesn’t try on clothes before buying – ain’t no mama got the time! Online shops have been my best friend. I know my staple pieces, and I want clothes that don’t have to be nursing specific or have milk stains. I want boots that are a new style for me, because I’m not worried about my big feet in pointy shoes. They’re cute, I’m cute, my baby’s cute – we’re gon’ be so cute and confident together. This camo tee and these pointy boots have been my weekend jam.
Save money – this last month’s read was one from Dave Ramsey, and Lord Jesus, thank you for him! The confidence and control over our money has blessed us. Our home (AKA: me) has been so much more efficient since making changes little and small! It makes buying a shirt and boots no big deal for our single stable income military family. Save where you can (make you own coffee and taste the $5 that you just saved), buy bulk, but don’t forget to bless others!
Go to brunch – you don’t have to actually go to brunch, but see someone in person. Ask them how they are, encourage them, and pray for them. Spend time having an adult conversation that isn’t gossip or mindless. Talk about Dave Ramsey because that’s where all my conversations have led to this month.
Try new recipes – browse through Pinterest or make something interesting with what you have left before grocery day. We fell into a pasta funk that left us feeling horrible. Thanks to new veggie filled recipes, we have gone a full seven days of no pasta!
Turn off your phone – or at least take a break from social media. The endless scrolling of other people’s seemingly perfect marriages/ children/ outfits/ homes/ etc. can make us feel like we aren’t enough. God did not overcome the world so we can compare ourselves to it. You’re enough. Your messy mom bun, milked stained nursing tank, and pasta filled body can rest in His peace today.
“I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” – John 16:33
Thank you The Mint Julep Boutique for partnering with me in a guilt-free reset so I can better serve others. Please note that most of these can be done during nap time or while dad’s home! I have extreme anxiety about leaving Anakin (it’s getting worse) so maybe something in your mind means taking a longer time away from baby (and there’s nothing wrong with that!) We’re all being the best moms we can possibly be, and that is more then enough.
WINTER HAS COME! The past few years we’ve lived in Florida, winter has been non-existent! This past week had the coldest night in over eight years; my husband had to warm up the Jeep for the first time ever (first world problems.) Anakin and I have kept our errands to the minimum and our warm clothes to the maximum being cozy in the house. Thanks to PinkBlush for collaborating with me on this post, and having all the layering essentials to get me through these cold weeks!
BLUSH + MAUVE
- PinkBlush – Pink Top
- PinkBlush – Mauve Knit
- Jeans – Target
BLACK + BOLD
- PinkBlush – Thermal Tee
- Altar’d State – Brown Knit
- Hollister – Leggings
Thanks again PinkBlush for collaborating on this post! Here are some previous outfits styling my PB items:
I am so excited to be partnering with Warner Bros. Pictures this week for an EPIC giveaway in celebration of 12 Strong opening this weekend! One winner will be selected to win a $50 Fandango gift card to see the film in theaters and a military style 12 Strong Sweatshirt *insert heavy breathing over Hemsworth.* THIS IS SO EXCITING! Anchors and Planes was born on my first day of supporting my husband through basic training and has featured care packages, life changes, and growth woven through the years of training, moves, and deployments over the past four years. I am so thankful to share this movie and giveaway that tells a part of our service member’s truth and reality.
Heart of a hero. Courage of a warrior. 12 Strong is in theaters Friday.
ABOUT THE MOVIE
Chris Hemsworth (“Thor,” “The Avengers” films) and Oscar nominee Michael Shannon (“Revolutionary Road,” “Nocturnal Animals”) star in “12 Strong,” a powerful new war drama from Alcon Entertainment, Black Label Media, and Jerry Bruckheimer Films. Based on Doug Stanton’s best-selling book, “Horse Soldiers,” it is story of heroism based on true events that unfolded a world away in the aftermath of 9/11.
“12 Strong” is set in the harrowing days following 9/11 when a U.S. Special Forces team, led by their new Captain, Mitch Nelson (Chris Hemsworth), is chosen to be the first U.S. troops sent into Afghanistan for an extremely dangerous mission. There, in the rugged mountains, they must convince Northern Alliance General Dostum (Navid Negahban) to join forces with them to fight their common adversary: the Taliban and their Al Qaeda allies. In addition to overcoming mutual distrust and a vast cultural divide, the Americans—accustomed to state-of-the-art warfare—must adopt the rudimentary tactics of the Afghani horse soldiers. But despite their uneasy bond, the new allies face overwhelming odds: outnumbered and outgunned by a ruthless enemy that does not take prisoners.
Rated R for war violence and language throughout.
A soldier is as strong as his word. Tickets on sale now for #12StrongMovie: bit.ly/12strongtix
This giveaway is unlike any other giveaway I’ve done so far! Instead of entering yourself to win, you are going to nominate an active duty service member or veteran from ANY BRANCH to win this prize!
- $50 Fandango gift card to see the film in theaters
- 12 Strong Sweatshirt
I’ve partnered with Pink Blush to bring you guys my super simple lazy day outfits for the winter time here in Florida. Today was one of those days where I just needed a mental break from e-mails, cleaning the house, and wrapping up the holiday chaos. All I wanted was to drink my coffee while driving on my own time, cuddle Anakin, and watch him learn today. Even if I caved to do laundry, it was a successful lazy day!
Stripes & Cool
PinkBlush – striped top (similar styles here.)
Target – maternity shorts
Turtle Toes – slip ons
Athletic & Warm
PinkBlush – Thermal long sleeve (similar top here.)
Target – maternity leggings
Nike – running shoes
Thanks again PinkBlush for collaborating on this post and having it all for my outfit needs!
Watching at surface level:
Watching as a fan:
If that feeling makes you already want to punch me in the face, I’d be happy to refer a therapist to you, because remember: we are just consumers. If you’re thinking “ah, she’s a girl, what does she know about Star Wars,” that is probably also why you hated the film; it is full of bold female characters.
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Tis’ the season… of waiting until payday! Maybe you’re like us and waiting on that final paycheck before Christmas to sneak in some last minute gifts. We unfortunately can’t afford to buy everyone everything their heart desires, BUT we can be thoughtful in our gifts. Gifts are not at all my love language, so I am mind blown when someone gets an extremely thoughtful and useful gift. Maybe they go out of their way to ask my husband, search vegan products, or just listen to the holy spirit when he says “Angel needs this coffee.” Unfortunately, not everyone is as easy to read or shop for! Here’s a list of gifts that every personality type and age group would love:
For a baby:
For a kid / preteen:
For a teen/ young adult
For expecting parents:
For parents of infants:
For parents of toddlers:
Gifts for you:
I have had a lot of time the past few days to reflect on the first three months of motherhood. If I could sum them up into one word, it would be “purposeful.” My young adult years have been full of championing others to fulfill their kingdom purpose instead of their earthly potential, yet I never knew exactly how much that would impact my view of God and motherhood.
I didn’t consider the sacrifice my body would have to make to give another person life, and it opened my eyes to the purpose of Jesus’ life (and Mary’s role in mothering him).
I didn’t consider that my spending habbits were unhealthy. How could I hold a baby wearing a sequenced PINK top? My belongings have been minimized to comfortable and purposeful.
I didn’t consider the value of fatherhood. The teamwork and communication that has to happen between two people raising a little is a part time job in itsself, but we keep eachother educated and at peace with prayer.
I didn’t consider the hope in tradition. That the making if tamales, lighting of a tree, or setting up the nativity would silence what was beyond our walls.
I didn’t consider the change in work flow. That when a new mom would reach out to me, I’d feel the same giddiness I feel with brides.
My body, habbits, marriage, traditions, and work have served a much greater purpose in the past three months. The heart behind motherhood can’t help but spill into every aspect of life, and I adore it. But even if I lost it all, being “Anakin’s Mom” is all I ever want to be.
These will probably be my forever favorite travel outfits to share, because it was Anakin’s first two flight! Planning the trip was nerve wracking in it’s self, but the Lord provided the finances and flights all in perfect timing (as He always does.) While I have a million experiences I want to share about our first trip, I am so thankful for PinkBlush for collaborating on this post to show y’all practical and cozy outfits for traveling with nursing kiddos!
OVER NIGHT TRAVEL
- Zip-up thermal hoodie – great for warmth and easy access
- Nursing tank – great for discreetly nursing
- Muslin swaddle – great for baby’s comfort and breathable
- Basic black leggings – cool for when baby is sleeping on you during the flight
- Converse – Lightweight for walking and flight
DURING VISIT (WEDDING)
- Off-the-shoulder dress- great for nursing and soft fabric to cuddle and comfort baby.
- Flats – comfortable for carrying the weight of baby and dancing
EARLY MORNING TRAVEL
- Lightweight knit sweater and nursing tank – great for the pulling down / lifting up method to discreetly nurse.
- Light pajama joggers – warmth for the early morning and chilly plane, yet breathable for baby’s body.
- Converse (again)
- Diaper bag
Similar knit sweaters are here at PinkBlush.
I’ve collaborated with Lorena Canals rugs to show you guys how we’ve decorated our home for Christmas with our minimal style and newborn budget!
Tree and Lights
Garland + Simple Wall Decor
Snowflake decor in dollar spot at Target.
Throw Pillow + Cozy Blankets
Throw blankets are currently on sale for Black Friday at Lorena Canals!
Thank you so much for checking out our living room space! We love what a difference having our new Lorena Canal machine washable rug and throw has done to keep this space cozy all year long and easy to clean up after a baby and two large dogs!